The millennial generation (which I am apart of) was raised by helicopter parents. This means that our parents were very hands on and protective. In many ways, that was a good thing! It helped us to develop a sense of security. It gave us confidence and a belief that we could do anything we set our minds to. But the one lesson it did not teach us, was how to lose and better yet- how to lose with grace.
We were awarded trophies just for trying. We were told that we would get an ice cream cone whether or not we won the game; We would be delighted in irregardless of our success or failure. (There was that safety we desperately needed.) However, somewhere in the midst of being sheltered from a cruel world, we forgot how to live in it. We forgot that sometimes we do not win. Sometimes we do not get the job we applied for. Sometimes the project we spent hours and days and months on, does not succeed. And sometimes the candidate we voted for, does not win the election.
So we lose and it is a shock to our system. Instead of being able to accept that something did not go our way, we begin to convince ourselves that we do not have to accept the outcome. Hence rioting in the streets, setting limos on fire and throwing stones through Starbucks windows. These are literally grown-up temper tantrums that we see being displayed by individuals which have drank the kool-aid. What does the Bible say about accepting outcomes or people that we do not approve of? Let us have a look.
Matthew 5:44 basically tells us that even if the individual in question is our worst enemy, we are to pray for them and even love them! And when it comes to leadership on a national level, the Bible tells us in Romans 13 that we are to submit to governing authorities. God is in control of who resides as President of the United States. If a man is in office, no matter how much we agree or disagree with him, he is in the will of God for this season. So we must learn to tastefully disagree while also being respectful of his position.
What do we gain by teaching our future children that when we disapprove of something, the answer is to destruct property, shout profanities and make a spectacle in the streets? Once again, the Bible directs us in how to handle disagreements and conflict. We would be wise to have a refresher…
- Ephesians 4:31-32 – Put away bitterness and slander. Be kind and forgiving!
- Proverbs 15:1 – Have a soft answer to conflict and do not use harsh words.
- Ephesians 4:26 – Be angry but DO NOT sin in your actions or thoughts!
- James 1:19-21 – Be slow to speak and slow to anger. Instead, exercise meekness.
- Hebrews 12:14-15 – Strive to have peace with EVERYONE.
So if you are upset, be upset the right way. If you want change, be the change. There is a right and a wrong way to express oneself. Here is to hoping that over the next four years we can spend less time fighting and more time praying a blessing over our country and those that are working for its future prosperity.
For a full list of scriptures addressing how to deal with conflict, click here. What are some ways God has dealt with you when you have had to resolve conflict amongst your relations? We’d love to hear your thoughts, so share them with us today by clicking the email icon below.
Shenae Andrus, 28, is the wife of Pastor Joel Andrus and the dog-mom of Mr. Behr Andrus. They all three live in Milford, DE and act as Co-Pastors of Lighthouse Christian Center, as well as Youth President of the NJ/DE Youth Department of UPCI General Youth Ministries. She is obsessed with calligraphy, music, Starbucks Chai-Tea Lattes, shopping and global travel.