There is so much more to being an Apostolic Girl than just skirts, long hair, and absence of jewelry. Sometimes, that can seem to be all the world notices. But, our outer appearance is meant to be the reflection of an internal purity, kindness, and consecration to Christ. Please remember that should take priority. But, as you grow in your walk with God and discover more of His Word, you start to see that outer holiness is important to Him as well. He has called us to be separate inside and outside!
I have gone to public school all my life (shout out to Chiles High!) and have worked with the public since the age of 17, Chick-Fil-A being the first of my many jobs. I’ve lost count of how many times I was asked by peers and coworkers why I didn’t cut my hair, or why I always wore a skirt- even in the winter or when playing sports, or why I didn’t wear jewelry or heavy makeup. I won’t lie- as a young teenager, I was embarrassed to answer and didn’t even really know how to answer.
If you find yourself in the same predicament as a young lady who has taken a stance on standards- fear no longer! Here are simple, effective, and sufficient ways to answer those tricky questions for those who don’t understand. Remember, most of the time people are not making-fun. They are truly interested and it’s a great way to start a conversation about God and your beliefs! I encourage you to memorize these answers and scriptural references (kinda hard to google scripture in the middle of talking to someone).
Q: Why don’t you cut/trim your hair?
A: In the Bible, it says that uncut hair on a woman is an anointing and covering of submission; that it is a shame to cut a woman’s hair. This is not a salvation issue, but something I choose to do because it’s in the Word of God!
-1 Corinthians 11: 5-6, 15
“But every woman that prayeth or prophesieth with her head uncovered dishonoureth her head: for that is even all one as if she were shaven.” 6 “For if the woman be not covered, let her also be shorn: but if it be a shame for a woman to be shorn or shaven, let her be covered.”
15 “But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering.”
Q: Why don’t you wear pants?
A: In the Bible, there are moral laws such as the Ten Commandments that apply to us today even though it is found in the Old Testament. One of the moral laws is for men to dress like men and women to dress like women. Although there are “women’s” pants and shorts, dresses and skirts are strictly feminine in most societies. You don’t typically see men in dresses, do you? (Unless they’re a drag-queen trying to look like a woman!). So, I choose to wear nothing but dresses and skirts! And if we want to get real technical, women in America did not start wearing pants until around WWII when they had to work in factories and take over “men’s” jobs.
“The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman’s garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the Lord thy God.”
Q: Why don’t you wear jewelry? Why don’t you wear makeup?
A: In the Bible, it says not to adorn ourselves with costly or flashy apparel. Jewelry is meant to draw attention. So, I only wear things such as an engagement ring or a watch- things that serve a purpose. I try to avoid costly or flashy looking adornments!
-1 Peter 3:3
“Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;”
-1 Timothy 2:9
“In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array;”
A: In the Bible, Jezebel was an evil woman who would paint her face with bright colors and bold lines to tempt and seduce prophets. Every time makeup is mentioned in the Bible, it is in a negative light because it was used for seductive/vain reasons. I want to keep from a vain spirit when it comes to my appearance and always have a natural look- because I am proud of the way God made me!
-2 Kings 9:30
“And when Jehu was come to Jezreel, Jezebel heard of it; and she painted her face, and tired her head, and looked out at a window.”
“And when thou art spoiled, what wilt thou do? Though thou clothest thyself with crimson, though thou deckest thee with ornaments of gold, though thou rentest thy face with painting, in vain shalt thou make thyself fair; thy lovers will despise thee, they will seek thy life.”
Well, I hope that this has helped you when found in the intimidating but exciting situation of talking to someone about your beliefs and why we do what we do. I encourage you to study scripture for yourself and do some research. You may find a better way of wording it for yourself! But, these are the responses that have gotten me through the years.
I am proud to be an Apostolic Pentecostal Woman! It is the best life and I enjoy living in His Word. I have learned to get excited when asked about holiness standards and strongly believe it is the representation of an internal work.