The Attitude Check

Philippians 2:3 – “Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.”

Jesus Christ is love. If we truly want to reflect Him, we will be what He is. We will never be as perfect, but we can try! Christ put others before Himself. The scripture above is a reminder that He desires us to uplift, encourage, and even put the needs of others before our own.

Ephesians 4:31-21 – “Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.

‘But, Charity- I’m just sassy. I’m just sarcastic. I’m just real.’, you may say. But, scripture clearly says that if your attitude reflects bitterness, wrath, anger, clamour (aggressiveness), or evil speaking (gossiping)- you’re doing it wrong. God does not want that a part of your “personality” or nature.

Proverbs 29:11 – “A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards.”

It is not wise to say everything that comes to mind. You must practice self-control and maintain your emotions and temper. Before you speak, you need to contemplate on it and ask yourself- “would God approve of what I am about to say?” If you feel it is necessary to say what is on your mind, the verse says keep it in until afterwards. So, after dwelling on it and seeing if it would be beneficial to share… then you may speak at the appropriate time.

Ephesians 4:14-15 – “ That we henceforth be no more children, tossed to and fro, and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the sleight of men, and cunning craftiness, whereby they lie in wait to deceive; But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ:”

It’s good to be honest and speak truth, but scripture says to do it in love. If one of my friends come up to me and asks, “Do you like this dress?”, and I think it’s the most hideous thing I’ve ever seen, I will give her truth IN LOVE. I will word myself in a way to not hurt her feelings but be honest in that I am not a fan of the dress.

Mark 3:25 – “And if a house be divided against itself, that house cannot stand.”

Don’t let a bad attitude and an unchecked spirit divide the Kingdom. Division, offense, and “drama” amongst the people in church displeases the Lord (1 Corinthians 1:10-11).  God is coming so soon. We do not have time to get caught up in bad feelings, gossip, jealousy, and judgment. His Kingdom is more important that all of that!

No one is exempt from an attitude check! Even I have to self-reflect from time to time and make sure that my frustration or anger doesn’t get the best of me, especially in how I treat others. We must check our attitudes and see if there is any area in us that isn’t truly reflecting Christ. And if there is, we mustn’t be afraid to acknowledge it and work on changing it. As I continue to work on myself, I also encourage you to not forget your daily Attitude Check.

Charity Huba

Remember Your Roots

Dear Fellow Apostolic Girl,

Remember your roots. When you look at a statement such as this, you may think that I am referring to remembering your family tree and heritage. But in this case, I am referring to the roots that have sustained us and built us up from our personal pasts and experiences. The roots that grew as a result of your testimony.

Often times, we look at our past, and the mistakes we’ve made, or what we’ve been through, and try to bury them away. We want to hide from those feelings so we push them away from us. Many times, we were put through a time of trial or testing and in that time, we learned some hard life lessons, or grew from hard experiences where we had to learn to trust on the Lord. For those of you who may be going through something like that right now, let me encourage you that there is a bigger picture that goes beyond what we can see or comprehend. Proverbs 3:5-6 says “Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.”

We often use the scripture from Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.” Let’s look at that scripture in a different translation to give more perspective. “For I know that thoughts that I think towards you, declares the Lord. Thoughts to prosper you and not to harm you, thoughts to give you a hope and a future.” The Lord can map out our lives according to His specific will, for each moment in time. No matter how much He has done this, He will never force you to follow His will, so… when we step outside the will of the Lord, we then take control of our own lives, and may get caught up in something that was not planned for our lives. BUT the mercy and grace of the Lord is never-ending and never-failing. Praise God! There is always room for another chance for us to fall back in line with the will of the Lord. And when we do, the result is a testimony of what the Lord brought you out from.

Victor Jackson said this, “God factors your failures into your future.” What an incredibly true and encouraging statement. As a child, I was always told that “God uses the bad things that happen, for good.” And it is true. He takes those experiences and trials we’ve been through and uses them to reach others. Sometimes, I think to myself that the Lord may have put me through something for the sole purpose of being able to reach others who are going through the same thing. The important thing to realize, is that no matter the mistakes you’ve made, the trials you’ve suffered, God can and will use it as a testament of where He has brought you from, and it then becomes your job to share with others as the Lord leads. Our testimonies should be used as an encouragement to those around us. They give us opportunities to reach and relate to people we would have never related to before. Testimonies glorify God and are a constant reminder of His grace, mercy, and mighty works.

I challenge you to share your testimony, and let it be a constant reminder of who God has called you to be, and where you would be without His love. I challenge you not to hide from your past, but to share your experiences with those who are in need of hope, encouragement, advice, and love. Most importantly Sisters, I challenge you to trust in the Lord, and let Him direct you.

Bethany Marsh

 

Celebrate Love

Valentine’s Day is a day of celebration for love and the only way to enjoy it is you must have a boyfriend! Wrong! Yes, this day is a celebration of love but it is not just between a boy and a girl. It is about spending time with your loved ones like your friends and family. As a single young lady, it was hard for me to be “single.” I would always joke with my friends that I was on a record setting “single” streak; Single September, Only Me October, No Man November, Don’t Date December, Just Me January, and Forever Alone February. This joke made for some great laughs but there was always this discouraging voice in my heard declaring that I was truly forever alone. Would there ever be someone I could love during this holiday? I would see couples together and roll my eyes because I was again reminded that I was single. I then began to question if I should even celebrate Valentine’s Day.

The year it all changed for me was when God gave me the revelation that all my other girl friends were also single and it was not because of anything we had done wrong – it was because we were not in that season of our lives. God answered my question and said, “I have given you numerous friends and family to love. Do not miss out on this time with them just because the world deems this a ‘couples’ holiday.” Ever since that moment, I treat Valentine’s Day like I do any other holiday and I make sure to be surrounded by family and friends that I love and who love me. I chose to not wallow in self-pity (I can be very dramatic sometimes) and instead celebrate with all my friends!

God will place people in our paths for us to love and to be loved in return. God has shown us this promise – when He brought together David and Jonathan in 1 Samuel – of always bringing special people in our lives at the moment we need them. So instead of looking at this holiday as a reminder that you are “single” like I did,  learn how to show God’s love to all those around you. And if you are reading this but you are not single, it is always a good reminder to remember all your friends and family that might want to share your love on this special red and pink holiday!


Valentine’s Day is perhaps my most favorite holiday besides Christmas! I am a romantic at heart and am very sappy when participating in the festivities. I want to share with you a couple things that always brighten up my Valentine’s Day!

First, we all know that a great outfit can set our entire mood throughout the day (FACTS. HA!). For every holiday I always dress in festive colors and for this holiday, anything pink or red goes! Here, I have paired a red Zara shirt with a Target jean skirt and a pink purse from TJ Maxx. This is a simple but festive outfit to run around town in or have a Valentine’s Day brunch with my girls!

PICTURE ONE

Another tradition I enjoy is getting my friends Valentine’s cards. You can buy these Valentine cards (or others like these) at TJ Maxx for a reasonable price. These specific ones are the brand “Meri & Meri” and cost only $7.99. Valentine’s Cards are simple but perfect to let all your friends and family know you were thinking of them!

PICTURE TWO

I pray you enjoy this Valentine’s Day with all those you love and who love you! Please share some great ideas you do for Valentine’s Day in the comments below.

 

Alisha Eason

It Takes Time

Remember when you were a kid and you would get a cut and want it to go away as soon as possible? So, you’d pick at it or try to cover it with a band aid. Your parents would get on to you and say that you’re just making it worse or you’re just making it heal slower. Well, they were right.

The more you try to pick on your wounds the more it will take longer to heal. Covering it with a band aid won’t help either because no wound heals overnight. They say that time heals all wounds. It’s true.  You see, healing does take time. It doesn’t have a timeline.  But what does this word “healing” actually mean? According to Google, it means, “the process of making or becoming sound or healthy again.” So now the question is, how long does someone have to wait until they can finally say “I’m healed”?

Healing happens over time. It’s something that cannot be rushed. It’s an everyday process. You got to be patient with yourself and push yourself to be brave enough to heal. Healing is hard and I will tell you this, there will be days where your mind will be full of questions and you will feel desperate for answers that do not exist. There will be moments where all hope is lost and you will feel like you have not made any progress. Healing is messy and can get ugly. Sometimes it can be breaking and painful. But, there will also be days when you feel free and hopeful, even when you thought you had no hope left. There will be moments where you will feel supported and loved by the people around you and that healing won’t be too far away. And those moments are the ones you should hold on to.

Healing also happens when you’re alone at night or when you’re sitting in your car at a red light and suddenly you remember everything that hurts, and it feels like you’re getting stabbed in the chest repeatedly. Now your whole body just feels heavy, your heart and everything inside you hurts. Because, healing is pain, but it is also triumph. To be honest, you will always scar, but it will serve as a reminder that you made it!

The bible says  For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.” -Romans 8:18

It takes time. It takes pain. It takes hopelessness. It is not an easy process. But, healing will come. And when this pain is over, the joy that He will bring in your life will be incomparable. He has a plan for your life. God brought you this far and He will get you through.

So this New Year, I pray for everyone that’s in the process of healing. Don’t give up on yourself! Keep pushing. Give your broken pieces to the Healer. Little by little, every day, as healing slowly finds its way to you and as your wounds become scars which will be proof of how gracefully you healed, your heart will be full of joy, hope and love. You will be better than okay.

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What Ministry Is Not

I grew up in a pastor’s home. I lived with parents that eat, sleep, breath ministry and working for God’s kingdom. From scrubbing baseboards and painting the church, to studying, praying, and fasting for each sermon and lesson, to dealing with all kinds of people as counselors and psychiatrists, advising with Biblical and Godly wisdom. And you know what, my parents LOVE it. All of it. The good, the bad, the ugly. I was raised in an environment where the mentality was: it is a joy, an honor, and a privilege to serve God’s kingdom as ministers. Not one time did I hear my parents grumble or complain about the burdens of ministry. When my parents faced a challenging situation, they never vented or involved me and my sisters. There are things that happened to my parents that I didn’t find out about until I became an adult, because they wanted to protect us and never give us a hazy outlook on ministry. I am eternally grateful for that. I know of others that are pastor/minister’s kids who grew up to resent ministry. They knew about the drama and attacks upon their parents, their parents would be gone all day working at the church, and would pour so much of themselves into their ministry that there was hardly any time or energy for them.

The definition of ministry is literally: servanthood. But, unlike the maids and butlers of royalty- being a servant to God is so rewarding, a blessing, and a powerful experience. Being a servant to God feels like being royalty. Ministry is anything that somehow benefits the kingdom. Yes, some ministries put you on a stage for people to see. But, at the end of the day, God sees ministry as a thing of the heart. If you scrub that church toilet until your fingers bleed, God values that more than the guy who jumps behind a pulpit and didn’t prepare his message (real talk).

Ministry was made to be a practice taken on by a follower of Christ. First you follow, then you serve. When God went looking for disciples, He didn’t stop at asking them to follow. He told them he’d make them fishers of men and that they would have to take up their cross. Ministry is supposed to be something we do because we love God, we want to benefit His kingdom, and want to devote our time and energy as His devoted servants.

Ministry, as satisfying and honorable as it is, is not a relationship in itself. It is supposed to be a product of a relationship.

In church culture, we tend to glorify ministry. We tend to treat it as a status symbol or a fancy title. I remember being a teenage girl and that being the pick-up line guys would use to attract the women, “Yeah, I’m going to be a minister”. When in reality, that probably wasn’t the most pure-hearted statement.

But, for those that are genuinely in ministry (and not trying to pick-up a date), sometimes we feel a pressure to always produce. Like, give a progress update at the end of every day of things we’ve done, people who have been filled with the Holy Ghost, or how many followers we got on our ministry’s Instagram. Without meaning to, we can start behaving like ministry is a job and we are being rated on our performance. Subconsciously we will compare our ministry to others and our work to other churches. Sometimes we wake up stressed and go to bed stressed thinking about our ministerial responsibilities. And that, is simply exhausting and not the way God ever intended ministry to be.

Burn out is a real thing. I have seen it firsthand. Marriages fall apart, churches crumble, and minister’s spirituality suffer. All because a servant of the Lord gave and gave and stopped being refreshed from the fountain. People get spread so thin, trying to pour themselves into ministry with juggling work, school, family and friends, that they eventually breakdown.

It is okay to take a break or even to pull-out of ministries. Yes, you heard me right. I believe whole heartedly ministry is something EVERYONE should be involved in. It’s so rewarding and a blessing to the congregation. But, I have to remind myself that God rather have His relationship with you be priority, strong and thriving, than have you hanging on by a thread doing His work. Your walk with God is so much more important than what you do for Him. Although your local church and pastor appreciates your help (especially in a small church), make sure you are thinking of your spirituality and mental well-being first.

Are you getting burned out?

Do you feel like you have nothing else to give?

Do you find yourself more often stressed than uplifted when helping in the kingdom?

Does it feel like an obligation instead of a privilege?

These are hard questions each of us who are heavily involved in church need to ask ourselves.

Galatians 6:9 “And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.”

Matthew 11:28-30 “Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”

What God truly desires from us is communion, intimacy, meditation on His word, and to be priority in your life. Yes, that even means priority over your ministry.

Don’t find your satisfaction in what you do for Christ or the roles He has given you in His kingdom. But, in Him alone. Be thankful for the honor and opportunity of leadership that has been bestowed upon you. But, never let that fog your vision of what is most important…your one true love.

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Don’t Take a Holiday

Matthew 28:19- Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost

Mark 16:15 – And he said unto them, Go ye into all the world, and preach the gospel to every creature.

Matthew 10:32 – Whosoever therefore shall confess me before men, him will I confess also before my Father which is in heaven.

James 5:20 – Let him know, that he which converteth the sinner from the error of his way shall save a soul from death, and shall hide a multitude of sins.

Luke 14:23 – And the lord said unto the servant, Go out into the highways and hedges, and compel [them] to come in, that my house may be filled.

Being a soul winner is the most honorable and important purpose our lives can serve, above any other achievement. A precious soul, created by God, a soul that He died for, is headed to hell by our sinful nature. To pull them out of the flames gives the Lord’s heart so much joy. For He is: “not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance” -II Peter 3:9.

We have a major responsibility as soul winners. It’s so easy to get caught up in our own lives, dreams, goals, problems, and situations. But, if we are to have the true nature of Christ- our love for the lost and care for their souls will always take priority. You think you’ve got it bad?

In this life, it is impossible to avoid hardships. But, imagine going through the same trials:

  • Without the Holy Ghost
  • Body of Christ to support you
  • A relationship with Jesus to comfort you
  • His Word to give you peace

Can we really say we’re surprised when people cut themselves, drown their sorrows in alcohol, numb the pain with drugs, and the even worse- kill themselves? They are defenseless against the enemy because they do not have access to the power that we do. People in the world have no immunity to spiritual attacks.

I am only speaking on this topic because it is something that I am so guilty of. Let’s get personal for a moment… I struggle with getting up in the mornings and sometimes walk into the office 15 minutes late. I’m so happy to be free on my lunch breaks, I have a hard time coming back to work. I know my coworkers see me come in late and my boss noticing my ever growing breaks. I’m not sinning or being immoral. But, am I still doing something just as damaging?

If we have ever claimed or will ever claim to be Christian/Apostolic/Pentecostal there is a responsibility we are taking on. What you say or claim means nothing to those around you if your actions do not to follow suite.

Maybe you think the little stuff like me running late and sneaking into the work place isn’t a big deal.

  • An occasional bad attitude
  • A little white lie to employers/professors
  • Moments of unkindness
  • Immodesty
  • Tolerating ungodliness (not speaking up or fleeing the situation)
  • Ignoring your surroundings (being compassionless and unconcerned)

Your witness doesn’t take a holiday.

You do not need to know someone very well to already form opinions about their character. It’s human nature! Especially in the world, where there is no grace, it is very natural for them to judge and form opinions of you.

People you may think have no idea that you exist, do notice you. Although they may not know your name or know your background- they do make judgments based off of your behavior, each and every day. From you professor, to your classmates, to your landlord, to your boss, to the lady that waits your table… The world is watching.

Being a Christian doesn’t end when you leave the sanctuary. There is no break, pause, or time-out. We must ALWAYS be conscience of our actions.

So, you have a bad day. Boss has been a jerk, you failed an exam, and you’re in a fight with your best-friend. You go to McDonald’s in a bad mood. The girl at the register gets your order wrong and you have to wait 20 minutes for your meal. In your anger and high emotion, you catch an attitude with the girl at the register. You snatch your food and give her a snarky comment and storm off with your eyes rolling.

There’s nothing wrong with having bad days and not being in pleasant moods. BUT, where the error happened was taking out the frustration on someone in the world. Thus ruining your witness. That cashier and everyone in that McDonalds has been affected. (This particular example deals with anger. But this also applies to acting depressed, sad, anxious, etc.)

People in the world are naïve and vulnerable. They have no wisdom from the Holy Ghost or spiritual strength to defend their emotions and perspective.

Matthew 5:16 – Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.

1 Peter 3:15 – But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and [be] ready always to [give] an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear:

Colossians 3:23 – And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;

In conclusion, our witness doesn’t take a vacation or leave. Everything you do is being watched every day. Although we have our hiding place and refuge within the church and the circle of church friends, we’ve been called to a higher place of responsibility when in the world. If you are struggling with something that may be affecting your witness- pray that God reveals what it is and gives you the determination to conquer it! I will be trying harder, personally. And I hope you do too.

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Worship: It’s What I Do

You WILL worship something…what will it be?

Sure, you don’t have a golden image sitting in your closet. But, you could easily devote too much time and energy to relationships, self-image, clothes, possessions, education, and entertainment. Slowly, anything can become what you praise and worship.

We were created to worship! (Revelation 4:11) But of course, God desires to be the only one you worship. When you worship and praise whole heartedly, it is SO satisfying! Because you are fulfilling the essence of why we were created!

Although it feels good and it’s one of the main purposes for our existence…why does worship make us feel uncomfortable? Why can it be so difficult?

The answer is simple. Let’s look at the story of King David…(2 Samuel 6:16)

David was worshiping the Lord and celebrating that the Ark of the Covenant was back in the Holy Land as he danced down the streets of Israel. He was so thrilled and grateful, he was acting a “foo”. Michal, his wife, was embarrassed and even disgusted by his behavior, for it was improper, undignified, and inappropriate for a King to behave in such a way. Worship requires humility. If you’re not having to humble yourself with how expressive, loud, and passionate you are worshiping… is it really a sacrifice? I understand we all worship differently, but either way, you should give your all in worship as King David did. He gave his all despite the opinions, observations, and influences around him. That’s why as young ladies, concerned about our appearance and image, we can struggle with worship (unless it’s the cute patty-cake golf clap). True worship requires surrender, shamelessness, selflessness, and humility.

The Bible talks about all kinds of expressive forms of worship that many may find embarrassing to do in service:

Dancing-Psalms 149:3, hand clapping-Psalm 47, hand raising-Psalms 63:4, singing- Colossians 3:16, shouting- Ezra 3:11-13, bowing- Ephesians 3:14-, and worship through music- Psalm 150.

I encourage you to be a beautiful example, portrayal of your testimony, and a grateful vessel of worship. Once you break through the pride, worry, and distractions, you will see how rewarding worship is to yourself and for your relationship with God!

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Charity Huba is a 24 year old Floridian, fond of the State’s hot summers and tropical beauty. She is a leader in youth ministry, music ministry, and Sunday school. She has her degree in Political Science and works for the government in the Division of Elections. She adores quality time with her loved ones, musicals, and moon-lit nights.